SELF-LOVE IS THE WAY!

I featured the baby Treezah because I remember being such a confident baby/child but as I got to the age of 13, things started become so difficult to understand and I wish I had said something to some of the strong powerful women within my family because I think I'd of got the right tools to start my self-love journey at that age. I only discovered myself at 21 and now at 23 I am so happy and so conformable with myself!

Self-love is considered to be an important component of self-esteem and overall well-being. It is generally difficult, if not impossible, to feel content without first being able to love and accept the self. So here are my tips which I took from Shannon L. Alder quote when starting my self-love journey.

1. The moment you realise that the person you cared for has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you, but a headache.

- Ok this applies to anyone in your life. it's not about being mean or hateful, someone people are just so toxic and you need to know when to let go.

2. The moment you realise God had greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or sad Pinterest quotes.

- If you’re not religious then think about the universe having a greater plan for you. You’re not put on the earth to live a life of sadness or to hate yourself, You’re here to impact someone’s lifes or even the world. Think about what your purpose is in life, the smallest things you do can be so big later on.

3. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parent’s wisdom.

- This is so powerful and so inspiring. I understand it’s hard especially with the media, the development of technologies and living among our generation having social media which is so at the forefront of everything we do. Please understand that what you see in the MEDIA are not always true, people on Instagram don’t always show you the reality of their lifes so stop people watching, stop watching what your friends do and where they at. Referring back to the second point, God/Universe has a plan for everyone so your plan is different to your friends plan, don’t watch what they doing.

4. The moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. People’s opinions don’t matter. 

- This point is one of the most important point to be honest. Whatever you do, do it with passion and do it because you want to do it, make sure you live your dream and don’t let anyone get in your way.

5. The moment you realise that no one is your enemy, except yourself.

- Don’t walk around being hateful. SIMPLE!

6. The moment you realise that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didn’t want it, need it or God prevented it.

- My grandma use to say ‘If you want it, you got it’ and as a child I didn’t understand what she was talking about but as I got older I started to get what she meant and I will use my work place as an example; I saw the job post and said I will get this job, went to the interview but I didn’t try to do my best, I just did my best. I got the job and went from office assistant to project officer to network assistant in the space of 2 years, bagging a lot of experience; I wasn’t afraid to just go for it. IF YOU WANT SOMETHING YOU GOT IT! but understand what is for you and what is not.

7. The moment you realise the ghost of your ancestors stood between you and the person you loved. They really don't want you mucking up the family line with someone that acts anything less than honorable.

- I believe that everyone is sent in your life or on your path to teach you a lesson regardless if they stay or they go, a lesson is a lesson right? but its what you take from that person negative or positive! Remember people come and go but it's the lesson you need to worry about….

8. The moment you realise that happiness was never about getting a person. They are only a helpmate towards achieving your life mission.

- Just please understand that happiness starts from within and not with materialistic things or people. It's about having peace with yourself.

9. The moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning. It is just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from.

- You can’t love someone else unless you're fully comfortable and inlove with yourself, SIMPLE!

10. The moment you realise that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.

- What this point means to me and what I am taking from it is; opportunities are presented to you in all different forms, don’t be fooled and don’t just walk away from something great, create the perfect butterfly effect for yourself and everything will fall into place in the future. This applies to a lover, a friend, a job role, your creative and your everyday walk on your own path in life.

All those points may mean something different to you so take what you can from it and good luck to those on their self-love journey.

Thanks

Theresa

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